The dream of every woman, at least in Uganda, is to get a man with money. Women have prayed for well-heeled men. They have consulted their pastors and some tithe themselves almost broke, hoping to find rich men.
Many have resorted to witchcraft. But witchcraft and prayers work in very similar ways, so they rarely get what they want. Why is it difficult to get a man with money?
Top on the list is that women outnumber men, and men who have money in the real sense are very few. Some women have been very lucky and married fabulously rich men. However, if you are a young woman looking for a man with money, begin with the places where you hang out. How many men can you call truly rich?
If you frequent high-end places where rich men spend their money on food and drink, there is a good chance that you will find some. But the key question is whether they are really interested in you enough to make them spend on you as you wish.
If you are an attractive woman, your beauty will increase your chances of attracting men’s attention. That is a huge plus. Sad to say, many men have what seems like a romantic interest in women when they really do not have any plans of taking the relationship further.
A man who has arrived in a flashy car, asked for your number and is buying you drinks may be passing time and enjoying your company but is not ready for a relationship that will provide a chance for you to partake of his money.
Men with money know that it can get them loads of women. They are going to ask whether they will get value for money if they are going to spend heavily on you. What is in it for them? If they can get fun from just about every woman, why should it be you?
Relationships involve sexual pleasure, of course. But there is no guarantee that your new man will be impressed sexually. You may be ravishingly beautiful yet underwhelming when it comes to sex.
And there is the real crux of the matter. If you want a rich man because he will buy you a car, for example, is it as easy as it sounds? A decent used car will go for something like shs25 million. How many men are willing to part with this money and let you keep the car for good?
Getting a man with money, it seems, is a lottery— but women do not see it that way.
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